well heres how I chose to handle the "haters"

I thought about it for awhile, I have/had little to no drama in my life until milspouse.com and by me simply bringing up that some of the posting had gotten rather vile I got slammed with "We can say what we want how we want, its called free speech" bullshit, and the "I refuse to sugarcoat things, people who cant handle it should get tougher skin" First, I think both of those are lame excuses that rude, tactless people say to hide the fact that in reality they are just being a rude bitch, plane and simple. I suppose they are calling being polite, or showing restraint -"sugarcoating" their opinion. So I decided thats fine, you can continue to turn people off from this site that was originally intended to be a hub for spouses to gain information, support and friendship- none of which was occurring from these "posting bullies" but I will not be a part of it. It becomes exhausting being privately thanked for taking up for "less vocal" posters and slammed publicly by tactless posters. And since making this decision to leave a few weeks ago I have to admit I am a much happier person, all the bickering, the stories of cheating, the judging and caddyness- all out of my life now! I dont usually choose to run from things like this, but when you come to the conclusion that you are becoming less of a respectful person by stooping to their level, its time to go. I have no regrets and I hope for "newbies" concern that the site can get their act together, but I feel as long has there are the same set of stubborn posters on there, its probably won't happen for them.