Sunday, August 15, 2010

baggage....

Ever had an ex that just wouldn't go away? I don't but my husband does. She makes these snide comments on facebook about us and HAS NOT EVEN DATED ANYONE ELSE SINCE MY HUSBAND DUMPED HER 5 YEARS AGO!!!! She caused ALOT of drama in the begining of our dating and I get crazy, rabbit boiling in the pot, stalker vibes from her.... I dunno maybe I am just fixated on the fact that its his EX which is always complicated. I wonder what he saw in her, how things were for them etc etc,mainly its just hard to know that at one point in time your husband loved another i know i know, obviously not as much or THEY would be married. Logically I know, but emotionally it still sux sometimes. It certainly doesn't help that she posts pictures of them on facebook from the past kissing, on the beach you know the usual couples stuff...., and her friends do the same. grrrr I CANNOT WAIT TO MOVE!!! It literally makes me sick to my stomach typing about it ="(

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  1. Wowww, she definitely sounds crazy! My hubby has an ex who, last year, tried to get him to believe one of her children was really his so he would come back to her (after they had been broken up for 5 years). We were already married and her MOM even e-mailed my husband trying to get him to be with her daughter again! I was fuming but I knew he'd never go back to her and she finally left him alone. Crazy exes! :)

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  2. Yuck. Sorry you have to deal with that. That's part of why I hate my past so much. I dated a lot of guys and even got engaged twice before my husband and I became pen pals. If I could go back in time, I would certainly have stayed away from the dating scene, for that very reason. It's hard for anyone to deal with that, and I don't believe it's nice to a future spouse, whether man or woman, to be put in a position of wondering "I wonder if she ever thinks about him" or vice versa.

    My husband and I were actually talking about this today. He's got people in his past, too. Not nearly as many as I have (gross to think about now), but he asked me "Do you ever think about guys from your past?" I said "Well I do honey... but it's more or less wondering what they're doing in their lives now. You know.. if they stayed the scum bags they were when I broke up with them... etc. I'm never tempted to lust after them or anything. And when I pray about whether I should make contact with them, I never feel like God's leading me to. So having said that, it doesn't bother me if people from your past come into your mind. I get that. As long as it's not a romantic thing and you're upfront with me about it, I'm totally okay with it. And even if it WAS an issue of lust in your heart, I'd want to know so we can work through it together." He seemed to appreciate that a lot.

    Crazy exes. Yep... I've got stories!

    *hugs*

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  3. That is crazy! Sending you a hug. Fortunately I was TLS's first real girlfriend, so I got off lucky in that respect. I have had a few crazy exes of my own who haven't seemed to understand that it was over, but nothing as bad as yours. One of my exes did ask to be in the wedding party, and once told me that he won't try to break us up, but when I leave TLS, he will be waiting with open arms. Needless to say, he's not invited to the wedding.

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  4. Ugh, that's awful! I hate exes that wouldn't go away. I had Mr. M's ex go on our theknot.com guestbook and write all these horrible things about me and how he's going to divorce me to be with her and all this crap. It's so annoying! I hope she leaves him alone soon!

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  5. Yeah she sounds a little Coo coo for cocoa puffs. Delete her, block her.

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  6. Daaaaaanng... I totally would have deleted her and blocked her already. You don't need to see that crap. She needs to grow up, move on, and get her own life... but that's not your responsibility. Right now, erase her from your life the best you can.

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